Sibling anti-rivalry

by Tracey Lanter

Now that my 16-year-old daughter is driving, an amazing thing is happening between her and my 13-year-old son. They are becoming "tight" (as they would say) and developing their own relationship that does not include their father or me.

The other day I heard them pull up after school but then ... nothing. No door opening, no "Hi, Mom. We're home!" So I got up from the computer, walked outside, and there they sat in the car, music blaring, both heads bobbing, singing, banging on the dashboard, playing air guitars, and enjoying quite the automobile concert. I watched for a few minutes and realized they had no intention of coming inside anytime soon so, though I wanted to go join in on the fun, I recognized they were having a moment of sibling bonding and I should not interrupt.

When they finally did come inside they were laughing and carrying on a full scale conversation that left me on the outside looking in. And I have to tell you, it was totally awesome. These two really like each other, enjoy hanging out with each other and that makes this mom way happy.

We have always spent quality time together as a family: camping, playing games, having dinner together, and doing chores together. And I guess because hanging out together is the family norm, now that they are growing older they are sticking with it.

Sure they each have their own separate interests and go their separate ways to visit friends or tend to their extra-curricular activities, but it is great to see that when they are together, without my hubby and me, they actually enjoy each others company.

So my advice to those with younger children: Make time to spend time together as a family to build the foundation for your children to grow in close personal relationship with each other in the long run.

And have hope, I have just given you living proof that they will learn to enjoy each other without shouting, "Make him stop! Mom, he's on my side of the car!"

Comments

[Shannon]

This made me laugh OUTLOUD! IT is so true! Having our 4th teen enter into the picture it is a joy to see how they bond with the older driver! I too remember the days of wanting to join in the fun but knowing I was seeing something that didn't need me. I am so thankful for the moment to witness pure joy for a mom and dad, seeing her kids enjoy one another!

[jennifer d]

That is WAY cool......way to go mom, enjoy it!

And...IF you are ever missing them constantly needing you, you are welcome to come on up here and help me out anytime you want, we have plenty of mothering to go around these days!

Anyone who's looking for excitement??? All hands welcome:)

From....crazy busy in Kansas City

(But seriously.......didn't seeing them interact like that just make it all worth it! Praise God for crazy days and for how wonderfully He brings it all together!)

[Tracey (FamilyLife MomBlog)]

Hey Friends, Thanks for the fun comments! Yes, watching my teens actually enjoy hanging out together brings me MUCH joy! I encourage all moms to take time to "hang out" with your children, it teaches them a way of life that values relationships with others! Monkey see, monkey do! :)